Wednesday, August 14, 2013

(Dis)ability Stress in the Workplace

In the world of comic books and graphic novels, stories contain crime-fighting heroes

who use their superpowers to defeat the tyranny of maniacal villains. In the place of

employment, not only do employees contain incredible skills/aptitudes to satisfy the

customer's needs, but also benefit the reputations of well- established organizations.
 
However,both crime-fighters and workers are not always perfect because there are
 
weaknesses in every existing person. The most common weakness they both share daily
 
is stress. The Kryptonite may drain Superman's multiple powers, but it is not as severe
 
as those with difficult working conditions. Employees are greatly subdued by stress
 
because of the two factors: disability and ability. This essay will address the causes,
 
the effects and the solutions of  (dis)ability stress in the workplace.



First, the aptitudes of employees are deliberately observed by the qualities
 
of their skills from both customers and employers. In many workplace scenarios,
 
stress can affect the individual's performance, due to physical/mental conditions one
 
cannot overcome and the lack of experience or required skills for a position. Thus, one
 
is capriciously and internally caused to be in distress by the changing of such
 
conditions. For instance, a mildly autistic worker's service is terminated due to curt,
 
unpleasant behaviors with outbursts and complaints toward neurotypical customers and
 
colleagues. Significantly, it is often claimed that the lack of interaction or social skills is
 
the main cause, which resulted in one's inappropriate social attitude; commonly,
 
individuals with autism do not acquire enough experiences to recognize social procedures
 
displayed in workplaces. The second cause of stress is the limit of one's ability. In a

workplace, some employees would have conditions which are specifically limited from
 
performing tasks that are personally considered difficult. This also happens in fiction. For

example, J.K Rowling's Harry Potter, in Lupin's class, practices to conjure the Patronus
 
charm to shield himself from a dummy Dementor, but suddenly falls unconscious.
 
As a result, he first failed to overcome the haunting creature, that is darkness to the
 
thunder bolt-scarred boy. According to Costley, Santana-Melgoza and Todd (1994),
 
it is suggested that individuals have personal barriers that prevent them from subduing

concerns/issues, "result[ing] from an inaccurate estimate of physical/mental abilities"
 
(p.533). In the novel, we see a similar case. In the young wizard's case, his witnessing
 
of death causes him to faint in front of the Dementor before conjuring the charm.
 
Therefore, it is his personal barrier from experience. Lupin's solution for Harry is
 
to reminisce or contemplate serene/content memories, whether it be of his parents
 
or his friends.
 
 

The second factor of this essay discusses the effects of stress and how it gradually

diminishes one's skill by a choice of action or weakness, such as the inability to

interact and the consumption of multitasking. The first effect, an awkwardly,

passive employee may have the skills to organize the products and clean the store.

However, the skill he does not naturally and greatly possess is the most important

skill to have when associating with his fellow peers or customers: interpersonal

interactions. Compared to the autistic case, it is subtle that they lack the craft to

"connect with people" (Isaacson, July/Aug 2003) and is because they do not

recognize the social protocols displayed in the work setting. Furthermore, they

would be confused by the situation that is occurring in person. For that outcome,

they will unintentionally behave inappropriately in public by an outburst or a shout

(as previously mentioned in the essay). Meanwhile, an individual may commit to

participate in many clubs or perform tasks all in one year. However, if one takes on a

tremendous amount of work, it may affect the person's energy by over-occupying the

time schedule in the calendar. This is called multitasking; the more the person agrees to

assist, the more the person will become inefficient and create more errors

(Jayson, Apr. 8, 2013). Everyone has the tendency to multitask by overcommitting to

too many roles in order to successfully achieve their goals. Their personal philosophy

is to mentally state to themselves "I finally did something right!"



Every crime fighter has the power to end world domination from villainous antagonists,

even to serve for justice. but heroes also need improvement in their strength and power,

so they can repress their imperfections with control. Individually, a worker contains a

condition, let it be Aspergers or an alcohol addiction. When in great distress, one needs

assistance not only to rid themselves either the addiction or barrier, but also improve

in their skills and abilities to simply gain advice or enter into a stress management

program. For the mentally ill, it is possible that those with mental illness alienate

themselves from peers, as autistics cannot attain permanent social relationships.

Depressingly, autistic adults are often terminated from their service because they are

 destitute in the art of interactions with customers and co-workers. In addition, they do

not comprehend propriety or social cues. However, if a demonstration in the

workplace is done by role-play, the supervisor can scrutinize every facial expression and

social signals acted upon the student. Furthermore, the worker is encouraged to ascertain

its meanings. But more depressingly, they are plaintively isolated from normal peers;

often, when others with mental disability contemplate that colleagues or mates they

acknowledge are blindly, or with purpose, elusive not to associate with the autistics,

as if they are perceived cretins for their stupefying, sulky traits. Notwithstanding the

emotional pain and the yearning for a companion to trust, autistic individuals allow

that they are desolate of a true friend, but act on their own. To maintain a permanent

relationship or understand the autistic culture, one should participate to assist "the

walking wounded...recognize and then connect their specific 'pain' to action"

(Earl, 2003) by self-encouragement to engage with the mentally handicapped and

then form a concrete, concord bond; they seek for peer support, similar to a caregiver,

but not acting as a parent nor guardian. In addition, in order to remain in good health,

people should participate or be amenable to physical activity, such as workout or sports.

To continue one's productivity daily, any form of exercise helps diminish stress trapped

in the human perspiration, such as drained energy in the human body

(Hinkson, Mar.19,2013). For that outcome, the body will be calmly mended from aching

pain and bad posture.



Overall, superheroes and employees are ordinary human beings with extraordinary

powers and skills; they both witness the challenges of daily stress while saving their

beloved cities and meeting the customer’s expectation. Containing unique skills for

justice or service, every living person exists to inherit or develop physical/mental

conditions and weaknesses, whether it be the underdeveloped art of interpersonal

communication or the limit of individual barriers. Human beings suffer daily from

social isolation and the overconsumption of multitasking until the life force capsules

(the human body) have been drained out for a day. In the eyes of a hero(ine),

one does not always portray an image of a good role model with confidence.

Sometimes, there are fighters of justice who would pivot themselves to the dark

side, just as Luke Skywalker transformed into the wicked Dark Vader. Unless one can

suppress the wicked thoughts of destruction or world domination, the curious

 protagonist can train the power possessed by plying the abilities as strong and controlled

as one can manage. Furthermore, as Yoda would convey wise words to Skywalker,

one must always seek advice from a friend for encouragement, while leading an active

life for good health. Super humans and ordinary workers are regular folks, experiencing

the daily suffering of stress, physically and emotionally.


 
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 Earle, R. (2003, May 3) Drain the Workplace Stress Swamp. Health Safety:

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Jayson, S. (2013, Apr.8) Is Work Killing You? 'How Downsizing is Upsizing Stress".

Canadian Points of View Reference Centre








Thursday, June 13, 2013

Save Yourself


Don't fall in love with me
I'm not the girl worth fighting for
I can be you fantasy
But you can never have more
Of me.

You may whisper me gentle words
And strike your strings with peaceful chords
Just to fall in your arms
But don't waste your charms
On me.

You just stare to the stars
Wishing she would come to you
But she'd leave you a fool
left with just the scars

Tell me that you love me
And you will never forget
But in the end, I'll become the memory
Of your regret.

Taint my crimson lips with a kiss
Touch my petal'd skin with your flesh
It gives me so much bliss
To know the spark is still fresh

But I'm afraid to be close
To those I care. My father stopped caring
About my mother and their love became morose
That's why I wouldn't be daring
Myself.

I lost faith in love
That's why I won't let my soul flee
To a man. Loneliness will shove
Into you, so I let it be

So boy, don't waste your time
With me. Go spend a dime
On a whore who will pretend
To love you back. I recommend

I used to love someone
Before he was gone
He said he did care
About me.
But he never said goodbye
So I just stare to the sky

So call me fragile
It's been a while
Since I've been alone
And no hearts have been sewn

So forget me, boy
Have a girl be your toy
I can only be in your dream
Walking in a misty stream
With you.

Call me a coward
But I can't go forward
To link my sole heart
To a stranger
And that's a danger
I'd rather be apart

I know how to tear
Their hearts out. It's not hard
For me to discard
Their love if I dare

But they always end up finding
Someone else. I'll always be winding
Back to misery's lane. It is my curse
For I carry it in my purse.
I gave up that chance
So I can't let it dance
around my mind
I won't let your heart bind
Into mine.
Don't worry about me
I'll be fine
You will see.

I've been in darkness
Think of me heartless
But I'm saving you
From me or you will rue
the day you met me

I can be your friend
Someone who would defend
Your every right and wrong
Let's keep it as long
Until the end of our song.

Friday, November 9, 2012

My Merciful Heartbreaker

Before you,
I was through
with the thought
of love and forgot
my own key to
my happiness and heart.

I never had someone
to be my best friend
because I always depended
on no one.

Forgot to smile
for awhile
because I've lost my joy
until you fixed my emotionless toy.

You were the first boy
I took to the roof
where I can shout to the clouds from
my frustrations and focus.

You were my awkward moment when I wanted to hug you
after meeting you, but I shook your hand instead.
I thought I was odd and you would not like me back.

You were the boy
to kiss me from my two years of loneliness.

You were the boy
I enjoyed talking and sharing music
together.

You were the boy I liked
to take you to my home and lie on the couches
to give each sweet crimson sins.

You were my very first date
to take pictures and wear Domo hats in
a halloween store. You thought its adorable.

You were the boy
I ever felt intimate with.

You were the boy
who told me you thought you were stalking me by
following me around because you liked me for me.
To admit that I was awesome, made me forget my worries.

You were the boy
that really cared about me because
you like me too much to break me into pieces.

You were the boy
to reject me.
I cried a little but you released me
from my depression and misery

You were my first real love
and the best thing I have ever received,
but you were also my merciful regret.

You taught me not to be
afraid of love and believed in me.
You helped me remind myself that
I have support from everyone we know.

Now you are the first boy
I write about because I thank you for
saving me from my greatest fear: sucking so bad on stage.





Wednesday, September 26, 2012

The Joy of College

What is college like?

To me, college is a community of misfits and adults given a second chance of education. It feels like a tribe that would help you no matter what the situation. We feel welcomed by everyone, including the Rainbow tribe (known as the LGTB). There are no signs of exclusion and neglect in a community of outsiders.

We are one giant, happy family united in just one place we call the utopia of the free minded individuals.

We have miserably and discreetly suffered from the hands of bullies, haters and normal elitist/socialite mates in high school because we were the abnormal plague contaminating the young minds with unncesssary fan fictions, fantasies, unrealistic dreams, and of course... pleasurable arousement methods to satisfy our sexual, enticing hunger

But today, those day are over; we can be ourselves. We can create something aesthetically real and bring the imagination to life. We can imagine that pegasus is an alien from out of space and gain more knowledge.

The reason I enjoyed college more than high school and middle school is because it helped me remind myself that I have the love and support from everyone that I rarely received. They just keep disappearing everyday because they have their own destinies to pursue or they had disliked you secretly. I couldn't tell if others were helping me until now. It was also because I have pushed the ones I loved away because I didn't trust anyone. Nor did I trust myself. I love college because it gave me a second chance of happiness. Not only that, I am pushing myself everday; I know what I am chasing after, I just need the adrenaline and strength to be active everyday.

Tuesday, August 7, 2012

Love for Willow

Into you summer's ring
I gaze upon before
your mystic ray fades.
I can feel the frosty
breeze from your winter's wind,
with a ripe smell of rosemary.

Your silky road is as soft
as a wet, sweet grass.

Your crimson sin is as sweet
as rose petals, with a taste
of blood and chocolate.

The milky white skies,
I look up remind me
of a pure clear water
I would dive into.

The strands of your long
leaves wave from a blow
of the ocean's breath.
as lovers exchange
whispers for embrace.

Your fire can bring me
the warmth I have always yearned
for I know not of such amorous
nearness.

I gander at your autumn's blush,
admiring your red, glistening glow

Your gentle, soothing
melodies always
lure my misty fog
into your mist

I can hear your giant seed,
as loud as the bongo drum.
But I can feel the invisible crack,
sharp as a glass can cut you.
I can see that vultures and demons
have left you with scars and bruises.
Permanent as tattoos and hennas, they
have carved your silhouetted bark so
you'd live with shame and regret.

I give my rose in exchange
of your heart, showing my
enamorous devotion to you.

Do not worry, willow.
For I will protet and defend you
from deforesters and poachers
as you will give me your support.
We will cherish
each other's company as children
playing together in a playground
and warming together.

Many questions I refuse to answer for
my peers say I am delusional.
Are you my Mars or Venus I have
created? Do you exist? Are you a lie?

If so, I lost myself into insanity;
I stared at the sun for far too long
until my imagination burned
my lessons into ash.

If not, will I ever
meet you as a small sparrow
in disguise? A dragon? Phoenix?
Please... give me a sign.

Monday, April 30, 2012

Lightning Lake Globe

There I was
Thirteen years old
in Lightning Lake
 A basin of sparkling water
and sand for a ground to sink your feet into.
Indulged by the round black tent, just like a circus kind
is covered with a thousand stellar, glistening rhinestones
and shiny, white strokes that appear for a second
The moon, beautiful as a pearl from oyster shells
took me away from my family and cousins,
I was at peace.
Indulged by the black and blue sky and the huge
reflective mirror above
was shaped as a globe.
and we are the vivacious, non-plastic dolls.


Saturday, March 3, 2012

Let it BURN!

I reach to the firetouchig the flame
the firelight will never tire
nor will it become tame.

Let it burn,
let it burn,
let it burn!

I can handle the pain
because it is my gain.
You may feel sorry
but don't you worry
my darling friend
I can defend
and my heart will mend

Let it burn,
let it burn,
let it burn

My flame will allways rise
higher. It is of no surprise.
You can take away my toys
but boys...
You can never take away
my audacious say

Let it burn,
let it burn,
let it burn

My heart will never conform
and my desire will never deform
I am not playing a game
nor am I making a name
for myself,
But I am trying to live my life

Let it burn,
let it burn,
let it burn

You may give me your loathsome words
to me as a thousand swords,
but it will always be my source.
I can take away your hateful force

Let it burn,
let it burn,
let it burn

You may blow the fire as many times
but it will never stop lighting
by itself; the heart is ambitious

Let it burn,
let it burn,
let it burn

When the fire lights
in the dark, blue night
it will always fight
until the end.

Let it burn,
let it burn,
let it burn